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Online Dating - 10 rules everyone should know

By: Aelicia Anderson

Online dating is an exciting frontier, filled with possibilities around every corner - but before you begin returning those enticing emails, there are 10 rules you should abide by when it comes to online dating.

Your love life may be stalled for a number of reasons. A recently ended relationship might leave you stranded with a condensed social circle and feelings of loneliness. You might have experienced a recent change, like a divorce, graduating from college, or moving to a new city. No matter what the circumstance, it is hard to meet new people. Enter the world of online dating - full of variety, spice, and excitement. If you're new to the online dating scene, there are several things that everyone should know.

1. Plan ahead

Determine what you are looking for in a relationship and state it clearly. If you just want to meet people for fun weekends and casual dating, let it be known. It is also acceptable to draw the line at chat rooms, if you don't feel ready for face-to-face meetings. Whatever your standard is, be consistent and firm, ensuring that you do not get hurt.

2. Use your network

Online dating and chat rooms are standard tools for people of all walks of life looking for love or a little fun. Ask your friends what sites have worked for them in the past. Trust the opinions of those you already know rather than choosing a service at random.

3. Pace yourself

Take your time getting to know someone as well as possible. This may mean that at least a phone call is in order. Don't let the other person pressure you into a face-to-face meeting too soon when you are not fully comfortable with the situation.

4. Tell the truth!

Online dating presents the opportunity to "enhance" your accomplishments. You may also find out that the person behind the profile may "neglect to mention" their four kids. If you honestly want to reach your goals, then be honest in online dating!

5. Manage your matches

Online dating can be overwhelming. It's a lot easier to browse profiles of individuals that you know are looking for a relationship than to strike up a conversation with someone at the bar. Choose a few of the most interesting profiles, take notes, and limit yourself to corresponding with them at first. You can always look again if they don't work out, and this will avoid too much activity and confusing emotions.

6. Not all text is truth

If he or she sounds too good to be true, it's very possible that you're looking at a bad egg. Take your time getting to know someone. Check their story. If you have arrived to the point where personal information has been revealed, there are ways you can verify details. If a person claims they work at the local community college, you can check the phone directory for their name. Public record is a valuable resource!

7. Chat room etiquette

Do not be inclined to get too intimately involved with someone in a chat room. Deep, personal discussions can get out of hand when they don't occur face-to-face. Ask yourself if you would say certain things to someone on the phone or in a social setting, and use censorship. This will make sure that you do not hurt anyone else's feelings or your own.

8. Paying for an online dating service might not be so bad

It is a good idea to invest in you! There are many online dating services that charge a membership fee. Considering that people who are willing to pay for a service might be more serious about who they are and what they want - leading to better relationships.

9. Be timely

The internet allows for instant gratification, whether through email or chat rooms. If you want to establish an online connection, then you must be connected! Check in often and respond to messages in a timely fashion. This is a large part in attracting and keeping interest in you.

10. Remember to keep safe

If your online dating experience is going well, the time will come for you to meet someone face-to-face. Keep your meeting public, and take charge of your own well-being by driving yourself. It's certainly acceptable to have a friend nearby for backup if you are really nervous. Use caution on the first date, and as many subsequent times as it takes for you to feel comfortable.

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About the Article Author

Graduating from business school in 1999, Albreda Anderson now works full time as an advisor to online dating web sites. She still considers chat rooms to be one of her favourite past-times.

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